Gratitude is a profound expression of appreciation for the kindness and support we receive. While seemingly simple, its power lies in its ability to nurture relationships, inspire generosity, and create lasting bonds. Often overlooked in familial settings, gratitude is the bedrock upon which respect and mutual care are built.
Unfortunately, many families fail to exhibit gratitude for the support they receive, believing instead that assistance from family members is a responsibility rather than an act of kindness. This mindset contrasts sharply with the gratitude expressed by outsiders, who often go above and beyond to show their appreciation.
Why Gratitude Matters
Gratitude is not only a social courtesy but also a moral obligation. It reflects humility, a recognition that no one is entirely self-sufficient. Acknowledging support—whether big or small—demonstrates respect for the giver’s effort and sacrifice. Gratitude fosters goodwill and encourages continued acts of kindness, as people are more likely to help those who appreciate them.
On the contrary, ingratitude breeds resentment and weakens relationships. Over time, those who feel unappreciated may withdraw their support, creating emotional and financial gaps.
Biblical Examples of Gratitude
The Bible emphasizes the importance of gratitude in many instances:
- The Ten Lepers (Luke 17:11-19): Jesus healed ten lepers, but only one—a Samaritan—returned to thank Him. Jesus remarked on the ingratitude of the other nine, highlighting that outsiders often exhibit gratitude more readily than those who should feel more obligated to do so. This story underscores the value of thankfulness and the disappointment that ingratitude brings.
- King David (Psalm 103:1-2): David constantly expressed gratitude to God for His mercies and blessings. “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all His benefits,” he wrote. David’s thankfulness was a source of his strength and Favor with God.
- The Widow of Zarephath (1 Kings 17:7-16): The widow showed gratitude and obedience when she offered her last meal to the prophet Elijah. Her act of faith and appreciation led to a miraculous provision that sustained her family during a famine.
Global Examples of Gratitude
- Nelson Mandela: Despite spending 27 years in prison, Mandela showed immense gratitude to those who supported his fight against apartheid. His expressions of appreciation helped him build alliances that eventually led to South Africa’s liberation.
- Mother Teresa: She constantly expressed gratitude for the support she received to care for the poor. Her heartfelt thanks inspired people worldwide to contribute to her mission, allowing her to touch countless lives.
- Modern Workplaces: Employees who express gratitude to their employers and colleagues often enjoy better relationships and opportunities. A simple “thank you” fosters trust and collaboration, making the workplace more harmonious and productive.
Family Dynamics and Gratitude
In many families, there is an unfortunate tendency to take support for granted. Parents, siblings, and relatives who extend financial or emotional assistance are often met with expectations rather than gratitude. This stems from the belief that family members are duty-bound to help.
Contrast this with how outsiders—friends, mentors, or even strangers—express gratitude for similar support. They write thank-you notes, offer public acknowledgments, or reciprocate the kindness, cementing their relationships with the giver.
The difference lies in perspective. While outsiders see support as a Favor, some family members view it as an obligation. This attitude often leads to strained relationships and reduced willingness to help in the future.
How to Cultivate Gratitude
- Say Thank You: Whether verbally or in writing, express your appreciation clearly and sincerely.
- Acknowledge Efforts: Recognize the sacrifices and time the giver has made for your benefit.
- Reciprocate When Possible: Offer help, gifts, or support when the opportunity arises.
- Pray for Givers: If you cannot repay someone, pray for their well-being and success.
- Teach Gratitude: Instil this value in children, encouraging them to appreciate even the smallest acts of kindness.
Gratitude transforms relationships and elevates the human spirit. Whether in families, workplaces, or communities, showing appreciation fosters a cycle of generosity and goodwill. As the Bible teaches and global examples affirm, gratitude should be a cornerstone of our interactions. Let us remember that no act of kindness is too small to be acknowledged, and no giver is too close to be thanked. Gratitude, when practiced sincerely, enriches both the giver and the receiver.
By: Ing. Peter Debrah, (BscE, MBA, MCS, MSCE, MBA, CIP, Dipl, DSC, PhD Cand).
